The final and most important step to controlling emotions is treating your broken heart and hurt feelings just like a wound. Give them time to heal. It hurts at first, but as time goes by, it will get less and less painful. Our biggest problem is that we’re impatient. We don’t want to wait around for it to heal. We want that heart fixed NOW!
Rather than allowing it to heal, we do all kinds of stupid, irrational things to make it feel better. I know how bad it hurts. It feels like a constant pain in your chest and stomach. You feel sick to your stomach and you can’t stop thinking about it. It physically hurts. You want to throw up. You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. It can put you into a deep depression and at its very worst…it has led people to suicide. Dealing with this type of pain isn’t easy. It can seem impossible to get through, but you can do this.
You have to do this. Because you know if you give in to the emotions and take the man back or beg him back in an effort to feel better; won’t the pain come back again eventually? Won’t this person just do this again? Won’t the cycle just continue? It’s best to move on now and allow yourself to go through the healing process, rather than repeating the same painful emotional roller coaster.