You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes?
You think they don’t catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that destroys that impulse. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realize that the feelings have dropped, it’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility. Relationships cannot be ready-made. You have to build it and it’s never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it’s not just love that keeps them together forever, it’s determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That’s why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself bridle your emotions. Building a relationship is hard work, it’s like building a career, It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined. #take_note