The One Thing All Women Look for in a Man
What is the number one thing that women are looking for in a man? Six-pack abs? Six-figure bank account? A tall, handsome man riding a white horse? No, no, and no.
The number one thing women look for is simply this: trustworthiness. That’s right, trustworthiness. Now before you go patting yourself on the back and putting this book down because you know that she knows that you are trustworthy, think again. Trustworthiness isn’t just about whether or not you are a player or, if you’re in a long-term relationship, whether or not you’ve ever been unfaithful. Although those things are fundamental and important to trustworthiness, they are not enough.
What trustworthiness looks like in dating and mating is this: You are who you say you are and you do what you say you are going to do. It’s about reliability, accountability, and showing up just as you are (but with good hygiene).
The Two Major Complaints That Women Have
The first complaint is: “He is never there for me.” The second complaint is: “There isn’t enough intimacy and connection.” These women feel alone even when they are in a relationship. In many ways, these are related complaints. These women cannot trust their men to be there for them when they need them. Most of the time, this is about being there for them emotionally: listening to them, caring for them, and safeguarding their hearts.
YOU MIGHT BE A ZERO IF. . .
- You dismiss her emotions or immediately try to fix them.
- You use your voice, size, or strength to intimidate.
- You check your e-mail while she’s trying to talk to you or in other ways that don’t give her your attention when she needs it or asks for it.
- You don’t show up when you say you will.
- You check out other women when you are with her.
- You keep secrets.
- You lie.
- You cheat.
- You lie about cheating.